I feel a lot better

Like we talked about them beeing possibly ace

Bc both is okai and valid

If they want sex or not they are still mine

But if they are ace i still have sexual needs and urges

So i need to ask the question of

Should i see other ppl to satisfy that need

Guys definitely not

Me getting taken by someone else is no

Which i agree, bc i am kinda allergic to guys

Girls are okai tho

Like i have a interest in that from another perspective

Bc i actually have no idea how my sex works anymore

I would like to find a girl and have her try to explain to me how sex works as a girl n stuff

Bc obv they have more experience in that

Like i need someone to practically show me, bc i cant figure it out, or havent yet

Like if its not adressed it would always cause issues in the background

If i like have a need but my partner has that just slightly

That would be a long term threat to me and mine staying together, which needs to be adressed before it takes roots

With this they are still emotional not completely down

And i get the underlying need filled

Like my top priority is mines emotional state and not just taking what i want without regard , but them beeing still sane

Like we will see how that develops

But thats a good compromise

Like other girls are okai

Like i cant physically f anyone anymore anyways

I asked them what makes them more emotional trouble

Me having a emotional connection to someone or beeing physically intimate

In general guys are more jelly for physical and girls more emotional

Or replace genders with testo and e

But i still need to ask her if that is actually how she feels

Like i will not go out looking for someone rn

But i finally know where my borders are

That makes it easier for me to not do things which hurt mine

If i want more sex but they just don’t have more interest, i dont push them, i know which way a solution would be

They get some rest from me needing to satisfy my itch

I hope that will give them more space to be comfy and figure out without pressure, how much sexual attention they need and want